Ring by Spring: Students reflect on the pressure to get engaged

Staff Writer

“I would say the hardest part of it all is that a lot of times you don’t even feel engaged,” said Sam Kuhlman, business management major.

The trend of getting engaged in spring has created many happy couples, but also many who feel like they are anxiously waiting.

The pressure to be engaged is felt by many students. Classes and the challenges of being a college student are stressful; the task of planning a wedding is just the icing on the cake.

“With the constant demands of school and homework, not to mention household and any other extra curriculars that I am part of, it can be the last thing on my mind,” Kuhlman said. “My fiancée and I have to take time out of our schedules to sit back and just spend time together. It can be incredibly challenging, but I would not trade it for anything.”

Other students in relationships, like English major Allison Clarke, agree there is a pressure to be engaged, but are happy where they are in their relationship.

Clarke has been dating her boyfriend for a year and a half and said “there is pressure to get engaged, especially dating him long-distance.”

“There is always the thought in the back of your head that it might happen soon, and we’ve both thought of it,” she said.

“With all the pressures in school, I’m happy I’m not a planning a wedding,” she added.

So how long should one wait before popping the big question? Kolbe Young, a business and catechetics major, said the need to be financially secured before marriage was a determining factor. The timing of engagement was another factor.

“I think the ideal time to get engaged is your senior year,” he said. “I believe you need to be financially and spiritually mature to make such a life-step.”

Pre-medicine student David Kuefler agreed.

“I don’t think you should get married or engaged until you know you can stand on your two feet financially. You need to be able to support a family.”

Many students, however, believed that getting engaged should be decided on a case-by-case basis.

“If you are prepared for marriage, praise God,” said Brigette Becker, a theology and catechetics major. “Couples need to think about every aspect of marriage before getting engaged.”

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